5 Signs He Totally IS That Into You & ….

I have been put through the ringer when it comes to dating. 

All types of ghouls came out, nightmares occurred.

Through all of my experiences came a greater knowledge of how some men

work and hopefully some useful tidbits for all of you.

5 Signs He Really Is That Into You:

1. He tells you. There is a rare breed of men that feel confident enough to be free

of games and make it clear they enjoyed that last date you spent laughing

and getting to know each other for hours.

In my experience, this is the type of guy who tends to also be clear in his 

respect for the woman he is dating.

2. He locks down another date and/or jumps at the prospect of seeing you a second time. Again, this is a man not afraid to be a bit of an eager beaver because spending time 

with you overshadows any risk of seeming so.

3. He calls you. If someone has nothing to hide (ie: a secret family they’re not telling

you about or other girlfriend) they can call you. They will want to hear you voice,

find out how your day was and likewise tell you about theirs. 

4. He makes exceptions. When a man wants to spend time with you he will do what he

needs to do to make it happen. Whether changing his plans (if he can) or deviating

from his typical schedule.

It does not need to be a grand gesture, but ladies remember to acknowledge this

especially and he will be sure to do it again. 

5. He cares what you think. It may be something as small as what he’s wearing or his

new haircut – he makes it clear that your opinion is worth weight in the matter.

Now, on the flip side – I would also like to share some lessons on what was once not clear

to me but now could not be more evident. Perhaps it will one day prove useful to you.

5 Signs You Should “Next” Him…

1. He is not dependable. Plans are not made in advance or something tends to

“come up” at the last minute that prevents him from seeing you.

As previously stated, when a man wants something he goes after it. If it seems he

kind of moseys around the issue more than once he is making it clear that he

does not consider you a priority. 

You deserve to be somebody’s priority. Wait for him, don’t settle.

2. He makes excuses as to why he can’t talk on the phone. 

He doesn’t like to, he makes you feel pushy or needy for wanting to talk to him 

at the end of your day or prefers to send an endless stream of texts instead.

No thanks hombre. Next.

3. He seems a bit shady about his phone, most specifically he has a lock on it and

is not employed by a government agency or other career that necessitates a 

specific clearance or level of discretion.

In more than one occasion this has proven that duh he’s hiding something.

Let me be clear, I do not think either party should ever be going through the others phone.

4. Spending time with him does not leave you in that post date heavenly haze.

In fact you may feel confused and even potentially insecure. 

He keeps you guessing, skimps on compliments 

(or sandwiches them with some perplexing slight.)

When we are confident with ourselves (or are just good, conscientious people)

we would not think of bringing others down. But misery loves company and a man

that does not really care will enjoy seeing his words create obscurity.

5. He makes time spent with you seem like a chore. 

Suddenly the distance between the two of you is an inconvenience. 

He finds fault with certain things that make it easy for him to justify not seeing you. 

That is because he does not really want to spend time with you. 

He may even be seeing another girl. 

These are some hard truths. We may have been ignoring the signs but the sooner you

confront the situation head-on, the sooner you can get happy.

This post is the first of what will become a Dating & Relating tab at the top

of my blog. Let me know if there is a specific topic you would like me to cover. 

My main objective of this column is to turn the horrors of what I have been through

into something good and productive. If just one person reads something and it 

helps them take a different, more positive direction – then I have succeeded.

I have literally taken each and every one of the above tips/signs from an experience

I have been through but they are still merely my opinion. 

It is so important for us as women to not become angry and jaded by the antics

we have been subjected to. There are good men out there. Sometimes we just have

to put up with some nasty frogs before we find our modern day prince.

 

What do you feel is the best piece of dating 

advice you have ever received?